Apologizing to save face

PrincessKLS · #1 (**permalink**) 10-05-2008, 05:25 PM

Have you ever just apologized but not so much that you were sorry but just to keep the peace when fighting?

**HeartAttack** · 10-05-2008, 05:47 PM

Indeed, I've done it before. Basically just because I was annoyed and wanted the person to finally shut the hell up.

PrincessKLS · 10-05-2008, 05:59 PM

Me and my aunt who I'm living with got into a huge fight, she actually hit me on the forearm (mind you I'm an adult, I deserve just as much respect as she does, grant it she's 70) but I ended up calling home and went home for the past weekends and I fired back saying I could hit her too and dada... I actually told my mom I wanted to hurt/kill her own sister.

I know she can't apologize so I just did to save a little face even though I didn't really do anything to set her off she's just oversensitive.

I even went to a school counselor and she made me feel like shit. I don't know if I could get the social workers involved or not. But it would just be too much drama.

I basically apologized for threatening her, but she didn't apologize for what she did.

**HeartAttack** · 10-05-2008, 06:02 PM

Sometimes you just gotta do the "right" thing. Right, being subjective of course. In this case, and in my opinion, "right" would be just apologizing and moving on so that it's not taken any further.

PrincessKLS · 10-05-2008, 06:09 PM

Shrug yeah and in the meantime I'm applying for HUD since I can't afford a normal house and will look for transportation from my old town so maybe I can move back next semester.

Kreg D. Nooks · 10-06-2008, 02:32 AM

I have... But the times I've done it starts up a shitstorm in my face which I didn't feel like I needed, so I don't anymore. =\

**Opunaya** · 10-06-2008, 05:26 AM

I apologize all the time for absolutely everything.

Chill · 10-06-2008, 05:58 AM

Of corse, i appologise to people a lot for the way I act and things i do, but i rarely ever mean it.

**SARS-expl0ted** · 10-06-2008, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Chill

Of corse, i appologise to people a lot for the way I act and things i do, but i rarely ever mean it.

Then why say it?
I cannot stand when people apologize for minut things that do not need to be 'excused' by someone else as a mistake. If you aren't really sorry then don't apologize.

These days words don't be crap anymore. People through the words love, hate, sorry, etc. around like they mean nothing.
I am not trying to rant but I am just speaking my mind towards what you just stated.

As for apologizing just to get them to drop it and move on, sometimes that is never good enough...especially if you did not mean it because they know just as much as you do that you don't and that could be just one more thing to add to the fire.

**Opunaya** · 10-06-2008, 09:52 AM

Yeah, if you don't mean it, don't say it. Unless you're lying to get in a chick's pants. Because we know chicks don't have feelings...

Umm....sorry.