What the hell is wrong with me?

Maxxim · #1 (**permalink**) 01-21-2008, 04:04 PM

I have been dating this wonderful women for about 4 months now, things are going so great, she even has a great kid that I just love, so why am I getting this feeling like I'm slowly being drawn away from her? I love this woman, but I don't know, also due to this woman, I have been away from the toast for somewhile, also because I didn't see the "no thanks" button on the Firefox add, it was starting to piss me off lol

**Laina** · 01-21-2008, 07:35 PM

Ha. Wow, it has been a long time since you've been here.

Can you elaborate on the situation more? I don't know what kind of advice to give you at this point since I know nothing about what's going on.

**Opunaya** · 01-23-2008, 03:05 PM

Yeah, more info is needed on this.

**Ristaron** · 01-23-2008, 04:07 PM

I have felt the same way about people who I really like. It doesn't matter if I really enjoy their company and want to spend more time around them, I just have to get away after a while. And the longer I put it off, the more I just come to find the other person... I don't know... boring.

It comes from being an introvert who acts like an extrovert. Eventually you have to get away to solitude, because you can't seem to care about people (which is distressing if you truly care about them).

Maxxim · 01-23-2008, 09:18 PM

I think we had another roll back, in any case, it started when I asked her to marry me, it was sudden but, the time felt right, as soon as we started planning our wedding, I started getting that punch-in-the-gut feeling that maybe I mad a mistake, but I can't tell her that, I just don't know what to do

help me out Toasters

eLracho · 01-23-2008, 09:51 PM

Yikes! You proposed, and now you're having second thoughts?

Well, I know you said you can't tell her that, but I think the best thing to do would be completely honest with her, or, at least, mostly honest. It's better to tell her now, while things are still in the planning phase, rather than in the "it's almost here" phase, or, "it's all over, now we're married, and I'm unhappy" phase or something. Does that makes sense?

That doesn't mean it's going to be easy, of course. But, I think you should suck it up and have a conversation with her.

**Ristaron** · 01-23-2008, 11:33 PM

eLracho · 01-24-2008, 12:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Ristaron

Ha! Oh, god...that's so true...

Maxxim · 01-24-2008, 10:04 AM

good cartoon, I guess? it's not like that, I love the woman, she is awesome in everyway, but I just think that maybe I moved to fast to propose. I'm not really afraid of commitment, but I don't know guys

Ol' Patty · 01-24-2008, 10:58 AM

It's natural to feel apprehensive about it. This is a huge change in your life. And there are a lot of little details it seems. It won't be just you anymore. It's you, your spouse and your child. But all the details just get in the way. The question you have to ask yourself is "Do I want to spend the rest of my life, sharing the rest of my life with these people?" It's a big decision...