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What does he expect?
So I finally managed to talk to this guy about my feelings, it was hard since I was hurt a lot and wasnt sure how he felt but when he asked me who do you like, I kind of had to tell him.
I had a date with someone and it didn't work out, it was valentines and he didn't ask me so I went with this other guy and in our conversation, I said why is that when you like someone they never like you back? and that's when he asked me and I wasn't gonna lie to him so I told him... So he was shocked that I felt that way, I guess he didnt notice, we he said I wasnt flirthing with him and so on like most girls... So what do I do? he wants me to talk to him in future about my feelings towards him but Ive been burnt so bad that its really hard... and I'm not even close with my parents and now he expects me to be open with him. He knows that its hard for me since ive been through a lot and so has he and he said he understands... Before the end of our conversation, I was gonna put g'night and then thought, he's expecting more now, and first I thought g'night warrior (he told me to call him that before, when I couldn't think of anything else) but I've said that so many times that it won't have that effect and well it's different now and then I couldn't think of anything for the situation since i'm ever so terrible at expressing myself so I just said g'night ninja, very stupid but better than nothing and he said 'I've been upgraded to ninja?' (meaning from warrior, he says that sometimes if I change warrior and think of something else) 'you'll have to top that next time' as in think of something better. I know it has to come form my heart and what Im feeling but I cant write it in words, I really dont know what to say... So when I had to go and he was like don't leave me after shocking me like this. I was wondering is he just ok with me liking him and just wants me to tell him how I feel and keep it a friend situation or does he want something out of this? He said something like 'you nearly gave me a heart attack, dont do that again' (as in talk more often instead of one big shock) If he doesn't like me as more, then why did he comment on my display picture "you look very attractive"? when i sent it to him recently (he asked me to) Help me, he's gonna be on tonight for sure and I'll be so lost... --------------- Added 23 Feb 2008 at 08:11 am --------------- Also he doesn't live here, he's 40 minutes by boat... So I can't be with him right now... 
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02-23-2008, 08:17 AM
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Seriously, talking is essential. If you can't be open with someone, its not really worth it. It'll take time to open up, but yea, you have to be open. Just ask him those questions. At worst, he'll say no. Also, learn English por favor!
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02-23-2008, 12:53 PM
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Both physically and emotionally. Luckily, we have things like ov gloves to protect us from the physical kind of burning. Sadly, nothing for the latter. All you can really do is be honest with him and hope for the best. Which it seems like you've done... or are at least trying to do. Just keep it real with him. And let him know that you're trying your best. Communication is key. At the same time, don't get forced into saying/doing anything you're not ready for. If he likes you, he'll be understanding and sympathetic about it. He should be willing to work with you. If not, chop off his balls! Sincerely, Lorena
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02-23-2008, 04:01 PM
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What's this mean now?
we talked normally today like any day and then i get this offline message just recently i could use a normal conversation about what you said the other day.. i dont' want to leave things vague and letting you hold it in for another year! unless you don't want to What's that mean??? |
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02-23-2008, 04:07 PM
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02-23-2008, 04:13 PM
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Just tell him how you feel... in a mature manner..... and it'll all be golden. Or purple. Or peach. Or whatever color you prefer. =)
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02-24-2008, 10:00 AM
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I guess it was a good thing I didn't get the response I wanted, I kept on asking people what to tell him, since talking about how I feel is something I'm not good at, I was so confused.
I'm not even close with my parents... Everyone said to talk from my heart, and I didn't know how to do that, so we had a conversation and he asked if I felt like talking about it and I told him it would be hard for me to think of what to say but he said it was better than left unsaid so he did most of the talking about how he felt and I spent agees trying to figure out how to write things down... You know what i'll paste bits of what he said, it's better that way, so you can know what he really thinks... "first of all i'm confused as you, even more but i know that i was shocked to hear what you said but i was happy to hear it but trust me you gave no normal clues of any type of affections towards me and that also didn't leave any room for me to have such affections towards you but you could say i like you aswell i never gave it much thought though yeah so that's what i'm trying to say .. i've never seen a reason to think about this but it's not something i would disqualify " So I had to write something down, I knew that, and finally I came up with the folowing, which freaked me out since i've never had to express myself like this and I was shocked that it was coming from me I wanna know what it feels to really have someone... someone that cares... someone that wants me as much as I want them... I just want to be happy, and you make me feel that way... I feel like you understand me more than anyone else... "wow you've never written anything like that i'm sure that took some guts regardless of what will happen you know i'm not a person that would use your honesty against you " and then it was pretty much near the end of the conversation, he had to do his evening run... he's probably thinking about what he wants from this, what do you think? I guess my signs werent good enough, well I should have thought about it, he clearly saw things differently and well I need to be more open... It's gonna be different now... he knows more or less how I feel... I guess Ineed to learn to write what I feel more... sorry i wrote so much... I just feel so happy now  =)  |
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