I seek your help..once again.

**eXosYn** · #1 (**permalink**) 10-28-2007, 11:39 PM

Hey everyone, so here's what's happening.

Back in sixth grade, (7 or so years ago), I had feelings for a girl. I eventually asked her out and she agreed, only thing was that I was too chicken shit to actually take her out.

Flash forward 7 years or so...to today...well, sunday. I am sitting in her house while she was in town making dinner and some homemade bread. She tells me that she had a diary she kept from those years and that I took up about ten pages or so out of the dozen she wrote in this book. And then she asks me to read it. As it turns out, she was right, my name was all over the book. I start thinking, why would she show me the book...and I got myself so consumed with that notion that I had to consult the girls I know; and I get two answers which follow:

Answer A:

She liked you then and likes you now but doesn't want to say it....

Answer B:

You two have grown up past the whole liking each other things and you two dismiss it as a simple thing that happened while growing up..

Personally, I thought answer a would be cool, but it proves enough to make me think about everything..

So I look back at Friday, we're walking up and down the town's boardwalk on the river, talking about life and such (I haven't seen her in months), covering topics such as school, life, her boyfriend (which about 5 minutes ago, she broke up with, and is why I'm posting this). To her constantly smiling as I'm talking...to her holding onto my arm as we walked... Flash to today...we're in the kitchen, talking about life and the like....we randomly smile at each other, grins abound, and many random huggs...we watch silly videos on youtube while we cook and we talk yet again of things that have happened...

Now here is what sucks....I just broke up with my GF Sunday afternoon. She just broke up with her BF today, Monday, at like 2:15am. I have had very strong feelings for this girl since I was in middle school, but dismissed the fact based on me thinking that I would tarnish our well built friendship. We constantly flirt even when we may be dating other people...and even in front of those people..

So I started thinking about why I like her...we know each other so well, and even though we do, we joke about why we never dated...I realized today, something I hadn't then, and that was that she's my perfect compliment to myself, meaning that she seems the perfect fit.

However, she's just broken up with her bf...and I don't want to have her judgment clouded by sadness, but I want to tell her how I feel and what I realized, but I don't know if I should. I never asked her out in the 7 years of liking her, and had no intention of ever giving it a shot, except that I have realized that for some reason, we compliment each other well. This could possibly be a delusion of sorts, but everything from her smile, to her eyes, to he personality is amazing...and yet I don't want to seem to try to get in while she's heartbroken...but I am not sure what I should do...

All my feelings flew at me at once, so I wrote them down >>>HERE<<<

What do you all think??

****Smart-Ass answers will be deleted....as I need a serious comment cause I am totally lost in this one...******

Ol' Patty · 10-28-2007, 11:49 PM

My opinion: Talk to her. Soon. As soon as you feel comfortable. The longer you wait, the more of a chance there is that she will hook up with some other guy. If she's uncomfortable with you two hooking up, SHE will let you know. Don't let a good thing go to waste because you have misgivings. If it doesn't work out, whether or not the friendship will be ruined just depends on both of your levels of maturity.

Just tell her everything that you posted here. As if your talking directly to her of course. You got your thoughts across very well here and I bet it will be the same if you talk to her about this in person, which is exactly what you want to do. Don't push her to make a decision either. Just state how you feel as you did here, and let her get back to you as your waiting for us get back to you.

**eXosYn** · 10-28-2007, 11:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Ol' Patty

My opinion: Talk to her. Soon. As soon as you feel comfortable. The longer you wait, the more of a chance there is that she will hook up with some other guy. If she's uncomfortable with you two hooking up, SHE will let you know. Don't let a good thing go to waste because you have misgivings. If it doesn't work out, whether or not the friendship will be ruined just depends on both of your levels of maturity.

Just tell her everything that you posted here. As if your talking directly to her of course. You got your thoughts across very well here and I bet it will be the same if you talk to her about this in person, which is exactly what you want to do. Don't push her to make a decision either. Just state how you feel as you did here, and let her get back to you as your waiting for us get back to you.

It makes sense....thank you for your advice... I plan on talking to her tomorrow morning if possible...

**SeaStone** · 10-28-2007, 11:55 PM

Hmm, you obviously want to ask her out.

Do it!

-Just not immediately. Wait a week or more, (it depends on how serious the last relationship was.) Then ask her out. If she's the romantic type, maybe mention how you two compliment each other, (without saying anything about "perfect". "Perfect" brings things to a whole different level.)

It sounds like she's interested, but if she says no, then just sound relieved. Why are you relieved? Because you don't want to ruin such a good friendship! ^_^

Are there any other variables?

Ol' Patty · 10-28-2007, 11:56 PM

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Originally Posted by synith

It makes sense....thank you for your advice... I plan on talking to her tomorrow morning if possible...

Your welcome. Good luck.

I really liked that poem.

**eXosYn** · 10-29-2007, 12:01 AM

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Originally Posted by SeaStone

Hmm, you obviously want to ask her out.

Do it!

-Just not immediately. Wait a week or more, (it depends on how serious the last relationship was.) Then ask her out. If she's the romantic type, maybe mention how you two compliment each other, (without saying anything about "perfect". "Perfect" brings things to a whole different level.)

It sounds like she's interested, but if she says no, then just sound relieved. Why are you relieved? Because you don't want to ruin such a good friendship! ^_^

Are there any other variables?

There is a senior at the college she's at, in her Fencing class...he's a sabre fencer, and he plans on leaving in May...so she doesn't want something serious with him....but I am not totally sure...

As far as perfect goes, that was an overstatement..as I am not sure completely now. She stays at the college dorms that are about two hours away...and this weekend she was at her parents house...about 5 minutes away from mine, so we hung out...

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Originally Posted by Ol' Patty

Your welcome. Good luck.

I really liked that poem.

Thank you. It was kind of rushed, but wholehearted all the same...

**SeaStone** · 10-29-2007, 12:06 AM

Okay, you'll have to decide, are the two hours too much to travel?

**eXosYn** · 10-29-2007, 12:11 AM

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Originally Posted by SeaStone

Okay, you'll have to decide, are the two hours too much to travel?

Not in the least bit....I planned on spending a weekend over there just hanging out anyways....guys are allowed to stay at the girls dorms, but they must be escorted around after dark or something like that...

**SeaStone** · 10-29-2007, 12:12 AM

Okay, so what holds you back?

**eXosYn** · 10-29-2007, 12:17 AM

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Originally Posted by SeaStone

Okay, so what holds you back?

The fact that I happened to break up with my gf...and she breaks up with her bf...and I don't want it to seem like I am trying to take advantage of the situation....