I have a problem... - Page 2

icadragoon · 02-24-2008, 06:55 AM

I'm pregnant and the father of the baby broke up with me because I wouldn't abort it. So now I'm going to be a single mom. My ex boyfriend is all for being the father of the baby but I'm not sure if my feelings for him are hormones or if it's the real thing. So we both agreed that we are going to wait till after the baby is born. My delama is that I'm not sure if I'm going to give the baby the fathers last name or mine. I've talked to his parents and they don't believe that I am pregnant so they want me to send them papers. His mother is a lot nicer to me then she was before which is helping and I let the father and his parents know how appointments go and everything. Near the end of the relationship a girl I was friends with was trying to break us up and called me every name in the book when she found out that I was pregnant and was keeping it. He seemed to care more about her feelings then mine. I really did love him which makes this very hard for me, but I'm in no way afraid to be a mother. I want him to be in his child's life but so far he's not showing me he's going to be there. When I have the baby he will be at school so he probably wont be there for the birth. I don't want to piss off his parents by giving the baby my last name but to be honest he has hurt me so bad that I don't care about his feelings. I just don't want my child to grow up with a complicated life.

butterfingered · 02-24-2008, 08:35 AM

Awww your dogs sound great.... just don't leave the one unsupervised with binoculars and a neighbor's open window. haha. My dog's a good listener too..... as long as no one has food within a 100 mile radius! Then he listens to them instead. lol

icadragoon · 02-24-2008, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Opunaya

You don't still care for him?

I miss what I used to have with him, but with everything that has happened I know it would never work out with us. When he broke up with me he said he didn't want this type of commitment, but when he was begging me to have an abortion he said we could try to have a baby when we are married and have a house. That alone tells me he's not worth it.

**Opunaya** · 02-24-2008, 09:05 AM

No, I'm talking about the other guy.

icadragoon · 02-24-2008, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Opunaya

No, I'm talking about the other guy.

Oh, I'm not sure if me caring for him is hormones or not, so we both agreed that we should wait till after the baby is born before we start anything.

**Opunaya** · 02-24-2008, 11:03 AM

Honestly, aside from the father being a douche, and you being pregnant, you're really not in that bad of a situation, you're parents want to help, the father's parents seem to want to help, and a guy is willing to step in there and be the dad...I think you're doing pretty good for yourself, just let us know if anything else comes up.

Static · 02-24-2008, 12:55 PM

That guy sounds like a douche! How can someone not take care of their own kid? I don't get that, it's like it's half yours, half his, you are doing your part but fuck it, he get's to just skip out on his part?! There should be a law against that shit. I would most definitely not give the baby the fathers last name, fuck that guy, I'm sort of confused as to why you would even bother with all the shit he did... Just like Opyu said, get his ass for as much child support as you can!

NachtEngel · 02-24-2008, 01:56 PM

The guy broke up with you because you wouldn't abort your baby. I wouldn't even think about giving the baby his last name. I wouldn't even want him around the child for a while. If he did decided to see it my first comment would probably be "oh, but I thought you wanted me to kill our kid before". Don't even think about giving the baby his last name. Think about it.

He broke up with you for not killing the child you want to have! It should be an instinct to protect it. That means keeping it away from people that want it murdered!

icadragoon · 02-24-2008, 02:31 PM

Thanks guys, I'll let you know what else develops as things happen.

maggiesxrevenge · 02-24-2008, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Opunaya

Life is complicated regardless, sweetie. I say don't give the kid the father's last name, but get his ass for child support. Also, what do your parents have to say?

i agree. definitley don't give the fathers last name and damn girl get his ass for it!!!! but maybe regarding the ex boyfriend give it a shot maybe...the next few months are going to be hard...maybe he will show you its worth it and maybe you'll realize what the feelings really are

icadragoon · 03-07-2008, 02:26 PM

I talked to the father and he said he'll be there financially but not emotionally. I have support though so I'm not in a bad situation. I'll find a more suitable father that will care for him/her like he/she is his own. I still haven't decided the ex thing but I figure it's not that important right now. I'm just going to play it by ear, see how it goes.