HELP! Been Cheated on...need advice!!!

Germanboi · #1 (**permalink**) 09-29-2007, 04:58 AM

So I get home early last night from my hometown (that is 2 hours away from my current local...and my bf and this guy are naked in our room...he said it is the only time he has EVER cheated on me...should I believe him?

This guy he cheated on me with he always bad talked too...he does not like him...but he still did things with him (according to him it would not have gone as far as sex, but it was touching and kissing...)

He told me he would do anything to keep me in his life...he said he'd delete his myspace, stop talking to other guys and a lot more things...he tried to kill himself too...then I called his ailing Grandmother (who raised him as a child) because I did not know what to do, and he stopped...to attack me essentially...just to get my phone away from me.

He was in the wrong, and he said if I did not leave (without my stuff) he would call the cops on me...or I had the option of talking to him...there is more, but I do not have time to talk about it right now...(he's getting out of the shower...) so please, advice! My heart tells me to give him a second chance, but my logic dictates otherwise. (btw I attack him to at one point or another in the night for what he did to me, so the flying fists were mutual...and not planted on anything that would hurt to bad...we both are physically fine...)

acutelyaware · 09-29-2007, 05:19 AM

no no. thats not right. not that once youre a cheater youre always a cheater, but it sounds like the classic cheater excuse...he only admitted a sfar as he had been caught with, he promises its his onlytime and he never will again, he promises he will do anything to keep you...really, come on. why would h emess around with someone in his own room if he wasnt going to do anything with them? if you can move on without him, i would really try.

09-29-2007, 09:21 AM

RUN! That is psychotic behavior of the highest order. There si no excuse EVER for attacking a person to take their phone, threatening to call the cops.

Let me tell you something from the perspective of my pyschology courses: these people will adventually turn out to be abusive to you or others.

**Opunaya** · 09-29-2007, 11:20 AM

Need advice? Simple: Revenge. Either violence or through a revenege lay...if you REALLY want to get back at him...have sex with a chick and when he sees start crying and say "You drove me straight! I hate you!" Or have sex with that same guy...if you want physical revenge...kick him in the nuts.

Seriously though, I rarely give cheaters a second chance, and if I do...they have to work hard to regain my trust.

everyone's favo · 09-29-2007, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Opunaya

Seriously though, I rarely give cheaters a second chance, and if I do...they have to work hard to regain my trust.

i'm the same way with cheaters....I could never give a cheater a second chance to hurt me again, but thats just me.

As far as your situation, I would leave the first chance you get....he sounds crazy.

bloodiedrubies · 09-29-2007, 02:05 PM

Cheaters don't change...and any one who attacks you for any reason(other than you two are playing and its completly harmless) is bad for you. My stepdad cheated on my mom four times and always used the same excuses and lines your guy is using. Don't trust him and definately get outta there as soon as possible, domestic violence only gets worst once a person sees that they can do it to you and you'll stick around.

If you really want revenge either do what opu said or just glance his balls really hard...it'll hurt worse than actually kicking him straight on..I have that from the best authority...or make him think your leaving, begg to keep you and then leave anyway.

Heaven hath no rage like a woman scorned, nor hell any fury equal.

Inquiring_Mindfuck · 09-29-2007, 03:38 PM

Yeah! Drop him like a bad habit!!

whitney_03 · 09-29-2007, 06:45 PM

I would say maybe you could forgive if he wouldn't have done it in your apartment and then attacked you.

What a jerk man. Fuck that guy!

Caroline · 09-29-2007, 08:02 PM

Leave him. He's not worth your time. You deserve someone better.

**Ristaron** · 09-30-2007, 01:14 AM

And this is what you base your assumption of "all gay men are sluts" off?
Way to take a bad example and apply it to the whole.

Dump him and find another partner who respects you.