A question for girls. ?

02-20-2007, 12:03 PM

Alright so I'm going to come out and say it right away. I have a difficult time approaching girls who I think are attractive. I can do it, but the girls I ultimatly end up talking to, at the end of a 2 minute conversation, I find completly unattractive. I want to know where an interesting, educated, motivated, and attractive girl would hang out?, and under what circumstances would they feel comfortable with a guy approaching them?

I'm not an unattractive guy, I know that, and I feel like I have enough to offer any girl I would ever talk to. It just really bothers me that most girls I approach blow me off because I feel like they are uncomfortable with me talking to them. I am fairly direct, but not in an inapproapriate way, just how I converse. I'm sure a lot of guys could probably also relate to my situation. Any tips or information would be helpful.

**SARS-expl0ted** · 02-20-2007, 12:11 PM

I don't know where 'attractive' people would hang out.
I have had plenty of guys approach me. Usually, they see me smoking and ask for a cigarette and then end up standing there and talking to me. It is how I make a good bit of friends. Well, how I use to.
Now, I try to avoid people.

How about this, no matter how hot she is...don't go for the ones that hang out in large groups of laughing chicks!!! B E W A R E!

B-Money · 02-20-2007, 12:32 PM

Good call but I find it much easier to approach people in groups or while wearing a dress, the dress helps alot, trust me I know, I've done it...more than once...on purpose :]

**SARS-expl0ted** · 02-20-2007, 12:34 PM

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ohsoindie · 02-20-2007, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by EpikFSE

I want to know where an interesting, educated, motivated, and attractive girl would hang out?

They hang out with their girlfriends.

Thats right, they're all lesbians.

Lol. Just kidding.

It's not like there's a designated coffee shop full of this type of woman (like with a sign taped to the door that says "hot smart chicks only"...) If you're looking to meet someone intelligent, interested, and motivated, who will be able to talk to you easily, hang out in places that surround your interests.

For example, if you really like comic books, hang out in a comic book store or at a convention. Talk to the girls there who you find attractive. The only way to find someone intelligent is to talk to them. And this way, you'll know you have something in common, too, and you can talk about that. If you approach a girl with an actual topic of conversation (aside from "Hey. You're hot. Are you smart? Wanna cuddle later?") she'll be more inclined to give you an interested response.

Also, sometimes, it's just about luck. Or fate? Whatever you want to call it. Don't give up. Keep talking to girls you find attractive. Don't lower your standards. Be a good guy. And eventually it will work out for you.

Also, you mentioned you can sometimes be direct. When you're just talking to a girl for the first time, it's not necessarily a bad thing to be less aggressive. If a guy approached me and said "You're hot, so I thought I would talk to you..." I wouldn't know what to say to him. In fact, I might not say anything and just reach for my pepperspray. I might be offended that he thought my looks obligated me to listen to anything he had to say.

My point is, until you get to know someone and have been hanging out awhile, and things start to get to that point where a decision needs to be made... you don't need to be direct. When the time comes for you to speak clearly and to the point, you'll most likely know. Actually, the girl might just flat out ask you, "So what is it that you want?"

And last but not least- sometimes its easy to get impatient when you haven't been with anyone in a long time. Remember to keep your cool. Be friends first, and don't rush things.

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Originally Posted by SARS-expl0ted

How about this, no matter how hot she is...don't go for the ones that hang out in large groups of laughing chicks!!! B E W A R E!

Ahh yes. Stay away from the chronic gigglers.
They're laughing like that because they don't have anything to say, and they saw a ladybug.

HI - RO · 02-20-2007, 12:44 PM

Man you're worrying about this too much, you just need to let it happen you can meet a nice attractive smart girl in a club or in a gas station. Or you can always have a couple of drinks with her and see what goes on from there it'll smooth things out.

Desiree · 02-20-2007, 12:45 PM

hmm, interesting buttt i love giving advice so here..

i have no problem approaching guys. i'm just talkative and friendly.
some of us aren't friendly but eye contact is key.. not the kind that's like stalker,rapist eyes, but a look and a smile always helps. that makes her feel like hey. he's a cool guy. compliments are another key. girls love them. but dont turn them into pick up lines cuz that'll fuck you over.

look presentable. if you're a punk rocker trying to pick up an abercrombie chick, im telling u that's not going to happen. experienced

im not saying change you're look but you have to have a type of girl you're going after as well. define attractive. what do u look for? and dont go looking for girls alone.. bring friends, and if you dont have any settle for the net. lol

i hope this helped?? ahh

02-20-2007, 12:50 PM

Well when I said direct, I meant I will just walk up to somoene and ask them how they are doing, and if they are enjoying themselves (if I'm out), or how their day was, just regular convorsation, but some people I find are really uneasy talking to me when I approach them like that. They think I'm like on drugs or something because I'll start talking to a complete stranger. I guess I could just call it bad luck, and keep in mind I'm 19 and a guy... which tells you all sorts of things about my hormone composition. I know I should really stick it out and the right one will come my way... I just see lots of good looking girls, who seem alone, who I would love to get to know.

ohsoindie · 02-20-2007, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by EpikFSE

Well when I said direct, I meant I will just walk up to somoene and ask them how they are doing, and if they are enjoying themselves (if I'm out), or how their day was, just regular convorsation, but some people I find are really uneasy talking to me when I approach them like that. They think I'm like on drugs or something because I'll start talking to a complete stranger. I guess I could just call it bad luck, and keep in mind I'm 19 and a guy... which tells you all sorts of things about my hormone composition. I know I should really stick it out and the right one will come my way... I just see lots of good looking girls, who seem alone, who I would love to get to know.

Try to meet girls at parties. They're usually just waiting for someone presentable and talkative to approach them. Plus, by then they've got some liquor in them.

**SARS-expl0ted** · 02-20-2007, 12:58 PM

I would always just let them come along.
I hate looking for chicks.