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fhone47 · 09-17-2008, 02:17 PM

ok.. my social status in high school right now are reaaal low i mean i only have a circle of friends any one know what i have to do to get respect and friends other than fight and do other crimanal things?

**Brother of Yeshua** · 09-19-2008, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by fhone47

When I saw this I was like wtf how does that solve my problem?

What do you view as the problem exactly? I'm not totally clear after we've all been rambling. Was anyone else's feedback helpful in any way?

What is your definition of respect? Is there something lacking with your friends you do have?

Sorry for all the questions just trying to understand the situation.

fhone47 · 09-19-2008, 10:57 AM

the problem is before I graduate I wanna have as many friends as possible and I only have the friends I have had for years so basicly I want to expand the friends I have

**Opunaya** · 09-19-2008, 11:03 AM

How old are you? When do you graduate?

**Brother of Yeshua** · 09-19-2008, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by fhone47

the problem is before I graduate I wanna have as many friends as possible and I only have the friends I have had for years so basicly I want to expand the friends I have

Ok, so you want as many friends as possible, but what are you thinking/feeling that causes you to want that? The wanting friends is a symptom of how you think or feel, which is the deeper issue that you are trying to resolve.

Could you please define how you view respect? It would help in the course of discussion.

Also, do you realize that most people graduate high scool and never talk to those people again? I'm wondering what the purpose would be to have all these "friends" that you would just lose at graduation anyway.

I talk to one person I went to high school with. We talk about 8-10 times a year and maybe see each other once a year.

I talk to about 6 people I went to college with, and see them to varying degrees depending on how close they live and what not.

I'm not saying what's right for me is right for you, but I am saying that most people don't maintain all these relationships that you are attempting to. I think your time and energy might be better spent focusing on the relationships you do have to make them stronger.

Also, maybe the most obvious question, what is your definition of friendship?

**Opunaya** · 09-19-2008, 01:20 PM

Friendships come and go, you very rarely find "forever" friendships in highschool.

**Brother of Yeshua** · 09-19-2008, 06:53 PM

Exactly, and forever friendships generally turn into long distance buddies.

You know they are a friend when you don't see each other for almost 18 months and you've both changed, but nothing has changed between you.

everyone's favo · 09-19-2008, 07:29 PM

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Exactly, and forever friendships generally turn into long distance buddies.

You know they are a friend when you don't see each other for almost 18 months and you've both changed, but nothing has changed between you.

This is absolutely true. One of my closest friends is in the military, and every time he comes for a visit, it is like we are all in high school again (we have a circle of 4 friends that keep in touch on a semi-regular basis.) Despite how much life has changed us, the moment two of us get together, its still the same group of guys from high school.

Personally, you should be happy with the friends you have. If they have been there for you from the beginning, you should know that they will be there till the end.

fhone47 · 09-20-2008, 11:46 AM

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Originally Posted by everyone's favo

This is absolutely true. One of my closest friends is in the military, and every time he comes for a visit, it is like we are all in high school again (we have a circle of 4 friends that keep in touch on a semi-regular basis.) Despite how much life has changed us, the moment two of us get together, its still the same group of guys from high school.

Personally, you should be happy with the friends you have. If they have been there for you from the beginning, you should know that they will be there till the end.

I will take and use this advice

germanyankee · 09-28-2008, 10:18 AM

"yeah sports not my thing clubs eh I think there kind of dull"
You said you wanted to make new friends and meet new people didn't you?You have to be more open minded give the sports or club a shot.You never know you might be good at it or enjoy it. You won't know till you give it a try, take a risk every now and again. Or go to a show or talk with new people as El Pirata said. All I'm saying is break away from your norms and try something new even with something as simple as getting into a new hobby. However it is also important that you do these activities for your own personal fulfillment not because you want to be popular or change the way others think of you. The only person you need to please is yourself! Who cares what everyone else thinks....