model question: How could I be attractive

deathslayer · 03-30-2007, 10:21 AM

I'm now 14 and i'm starting to think about having a girlfriend
I've got no targets , how could I attract girls even we do not know eachother? Cause when it comes to girls, I'm kind of shy

**Kelley** · 03-30-2007, 10:28 AM

hmm i still think 14 is a tad too young but...I'm an old fashion southern girl.

If you're shy, try talking in the mirror. It really does help. I was incredibly shy, and still am around strangers. Being shy is normal, especially for guys around girls.

But yeah, mirror first, then if you feel you're ready to move on, ask your mum or dad what you should do. they can help, I promise.

Kristyn · 03-30-2007, 10:30 AM

also, don't try and be someone you're not. be yourself and you'll find a girl who likes you for you.

i used to be really shy too

deathslayer · 03-30-2007, 10:32 AM

Asking parents for advice in meeting girls?
You gotta to joking~
Talking to the mirror seems not quite useful for me~
I know that 14 is still to young for having gf but as least I should get to know some "girl" "friends" , right?

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Originally Posted by Kristyn

also, don't try and be someone you're not. be yourself and you'll find a girl who likes you for you.

i used to be really shy too

Agree, but only being myself will make me lack of the chance to meet girls
I used to be a very "cool" person, won't speak to people i dont know

**Kelley** · 03-30-2007, 10:35 AM

lol. You could read up. There's tons of books avaliable.

deathslayer · 03-30-2007, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Kelley

lol. You could read up. There's tons of books avaliable.

Books? What kinds of book?
How could reading books help me?
I juz dont get it...

**Kelley** · 03-30-2007, 10:46 AM

Self esteem books and public speaking books....I dunno, they should help.

Really though, as embarrasing as they may be, your parents really do give some of the best advice for these kinds of things. You may not understand them now, but that's because you're still young.

Kristyn · 03-30-2007, 10:46 AM

lol, she means books on dating.

are you old enough to work? i met my current boyfriend at my job.

deathslayer · 03-30-2007, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Kelley

Self esteem books and public speaking books....I dunno, they should help.

Really though, as embarrasing as they may be, your parents really do give some of the best advice for these kinds of things. You may not understand them now, but that's because you're still young.

Gee thanks,
I'll think about that

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Originally Posted by Kristyn

lol, she means books on dating.

are you old enough to work? i met my current boyfriend at my job.

I happened to mention I am 14 though

03-30-2007, 11:03 AM

Do as the ladies instructed & just be yourself. Your best bet is to just be you & don't look for a girlfriend. If you're nice enough just as yourself girls will take notice, regardless of how shy you are.
Eventually, after talking with girls long enough you're going to relax around them a bit more. I wish I could tell you the nervous thing'll go away but it probably won't. With any luck eventually you'll draw from it & it'll end up making you a better man. Until that time though, it's gonna suck.

I never tried the talking in the mirror thing but if they say it works, it must. Granted you'll probably look mildy retarded if your parents walk in on you but hey.., those are the moments that'll scar you long after the incident's passed you by.