A man from my past that I still care about.

07-30-2007, 05:08 PM

Hey everyone I have this problem. I'm with this new guy that is 36 years old, but I still have feelings for me ex'boyfriend Matt that is 25 years old. I wrote Matt today and told him that I still care about him. And he told me that I lucked out. I'm not sure what to do know. The 36 year old takes care of me and my little girl every well. I'm lost without my mother. What should I do? I have a great sex life with the 36 year old, but I also had a great sex life with my ex. But sex isn't everything though. Some one help me with this problem please! Well later for now and please write back and help me with my problem.

~Chtara~

07-30-2007, 05:11 PM

I need a little more info here.
How well did the 25 year old take care of you?
Why did you two break up in the first place?
Things like that please.

NachtEngel · 07-30-2007, 05:20 PM

Why did you jump into a new relationship knowing that you had feelings for your ex? I think that you need to figure out what you want and decide from there. Figure out who can best give you the things you need in a relationship. Do not cheat just because you have feelings for both of them. That would be bad.

ChaosXIII · 07-30-2007, 05:38 PM

Maybe you should take time away from the both of them, if possible, you know without losing care for the kid. It's good that you have your child on top priority, I know way too many people that just don't care. If mom can help you out, great. It'll give you a chance to think upon it without influence from either of the two.

**~~Saipan~~** · 08-02-2007, 09:26 AM

She got with the 36 y/o as an attempt to break her feelings with the younger one.However her feelings for him did not fade as expected,she is now confused if she should take a great leap to restore something she once had or just settle for her current situation.Look at it from this point of veiw,if you werent dating either and you had a choice you would choose the younger one wouldent you? You just dont want to take the chance of leaving Mr.36
in order to get with Mr.25.Im sure the older one does take good care of your daughter but that shouldent dictate YOU choice,If you date the younger one he has more room to grow ALONG with you daughter instead of bestowing the values of another child....give them room to grow TOGETHER....

Im sure you will find what your looking for in time,the universe has a way of sorting things out.

**Opunaya** · 08-02-2007, 09:39 AM

Wait, how old are you?

08-02-2007, 09:46 AM

well. it depends. do you think that Mr. 25 can take care of your daughter better since he is closer to being a kid and he will have more time to grow with her. But Mr. 36 has already gone through that and knows how to take care of a kid. But not grow with it and possibly love her as much as Mr. 25. Also, did you get with someone so quickly because of your insecurity? If you did, I think that is wrong, and that you should go with Mr. 25

Checking... · 08-02-2007, 09:58 AM

break-ups are for a reason. your missing him becuase you were used to the way things were.....give it time youll be fine..

08-15-2007, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Opunaya

Wait, how old are you?

I'm 20.