i need major help

05-24-2007, 07:47 PM

i dont know what to do i am crazy in love with this kid chad we have known eachother for almost 2 years we finally started dating and we were together for 5 months before we found out he had to move to texas with his dad and step mom because i was pregnant (i wasnt at the time) we got to spend a couple more weeks together and thats when we decided that we live together for the last month and court order if i was pregnant and they found out when he was in texas he had to move back in with me so three four maybe five days before he left we decided to try and get pregnant well things happened i got pregnant and called him with the news
my life being the worse one to live i ended up being diagnosed with a brain tumor i was devistated when i found out it may kill my babii girl the next time i called chad it was only bad news i didnt tell him it was because of a brain tumor for about 2 or 3 weeks now hes been in texas since before christmas i miss him so much and obviously still crazy about him no matter how i try to tell him it he never answers but when we do talk he talks bout how we are goin to get back together and be together for ever i dont know if i should just move on or wait it out for a couple more weeks or a month till he moves back up please help me i really need it

somechick_73 · 05-25-2007, 05:49 PM

Sounds like too much drama. I think you should stop what you're doing and look at yourself. Is this really the kind of life you want to live if you could possibly die at any time? You should live your life without stress for as long as you can. that means no relationships with guys, no babies, just having a good time. Go hang out with some friends. That's my advice to you.

05-25-2007, 05:58 PM

You already know my feelings on this but I'm going to tell you again and MAYBE you will get it this time!

Just leave him alone. I know you love him and want to be with him but after over 200 letters and god knows how many phones and he still hasnt responded...I mean come on Ashley! You know I love ya like a sis but for god sakes stop doing this to yourself. He obviously doesnt know what he wants. I know you well enought to know that you could have any guy you wanted and here you are sitting around waiting on someone that has fucked you over too many times. I'm not trying to hurt you and you know that, but come one Ashley leave him alone. Go for one of the guys you worked with or someone at the club. I'm not saying that some time down the road you cant get back with him if he has decided what he wants and has grown up A LOT, but seriously hun just leave him alone for a while. Dont waste your summer on him. I think that you have been happier since he left minus the few months right after he left. Your one of the best friends that a girl could ask for and I dont want to see you all messed up because of him.

Thats what I have to say...lets hope it sunk in this time!

05-28-2007, 12:42 PM

Hey, this sounds pretty harsh but sometimes people are just dealt the wrong cards. Listen to your friend, she cares about you enough to tell you the harsh truth, which is the most valuable truth of all. If you do decide to move one, let whoever you move on to know about your conditions. I can only imagine how horrible it must be to be diagnosed with a brain tumor, but it's something hard on not only you, but to those who are close to you.

They have to know that things could happen. I know many people dont like to talk about it, but things CAN happen. Maybe that is the boy's problem, he's scared so he distances himself. Though, I dont know anything about this boy but from what your friend says, you may just need to move on with your life. Find new happiness.

05-28-2007, 10:14 PM

i would have to agree with ChamChooper, people should know what is happening

05-30-2007, 09:49 AM

i was more looking at advice on how to tell him i had a brain tumor but i already told him he got kicked out of his house down in texas and that is the reason he was not calling or messaging me. he is living with his friend and he does not have the internet so he is not totally ignoring me but still
thank you all for your help
ashley

05-30-2007, 11:06 AM

Alright once again LISTEN CLOSELY!!!!!!!!!

That is a bull shit excuse not to contact you and you know it! How hard is it to go to the library and use the internet there?

GAH I'm not getting into this!

You should just leave him alone!

**SARS-expl0ted** · 05-30-2007, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by ~*~ashley~*~

i dont know what to do i am crazy in love with this kid chad we have known eachother for almost 2 years we finally started dating and we were together for 5 months before we found out he had to move to texas with his dad and step mom because i was pregnant (i wasnt at the time) we got to spend a couple more weeks together and thats when we decided that we live together for the last month and court order if i was pregnant and they found out when he was in texas he had to move back in with me so three four maybe five days before he left we decided to try and get pregnant well things happened i got pregnant and called him with the news
my life being the worse one to live i ended up being diagnosed with a brain tumor i was devistated when i found out it may kill my babii girl the next time i called chad it was only bad news i didnt tell him it was because of a brain tumor for about 2 or 3 weeks now hes been in texas since before christmas i miss him so much and obviously still crazy about him no matter how i try to tell him it he never answers but when we do talk he talks bout how we are goin to get back together and be together for ever i dont know if i should just move on or wait it out for a couple more weeks or a month till he moves back up please help me i really need it

Um. I am not trying to be mean about this whole thing but you should have just wanted to get pregnant to keep him around...that is a little drastic don't you think?
He had to move. It isn't the end of your life...there are other people out there. I would move on and smack myself for only wanting a baby because it was the only reason I would get to see my 'beloved.'
You guys were only together for 5 months as well. It doesn't matter how long you have known him...when you start a relationship, it changes...drastically. I think you two need to move on and learn other things then trying to have a kid together within so short of a time of being together....

I am sorry but that shit is ridiculous.

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Originally Posted by ~*~ashley~*~

i was more looking at advice on how to tell him i had a brain tumor but i already told him he got kicked out of his house down in texas and that is the reason he was not calling or messaging me. he is living with his friend and he does not have the internet so he is not totally ignoring me but still
thank you all for your help
ashley

You should have told him about the brain tumor thing when you found out...how fucking hard is it to tell someone you supposedly 'love' so much something so simple?