I need advice from anyone that can help....

02-18-2007, 08:29 PM

My fiance recently moved to Virginia to work with his uncle, but he is upset because I didn't move with him. My grandma has been very sick and we didn't think that she was going to make it. I am also wanting to go back to school but I don't want to leave here. I hope that this doesn't put a damper on our relationship. We have been together for almost 2 years and it has been great. Recently we have been fighting alot and I hope that this move might help with the fighting. I love him and I really do think that he is the right one for me. What would you do about this problem? What would you say to him? What would you of done????

Sophie19 · 02-18-2007, 08:51 PM

If you guys are meant to be then you will be able to make it work. My fiancee and I have been long distance for four years, while we went to two different collages in two different states. It's hard sometimes but we love each other and we trust each other and we make it work. If you have to live apart for a while then it will ultimately make your relationship stronger.

katrinav · 02-19-2007, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Sophie19

My fiancee and I have been long distance for four years, while

wow i think that's amazing that you made it work for that long! and you guys haven't broken up for part of the time & cheated on each other and stuff? cuz i never see any ldr couples that work :[

umm i think maybe after your grandma either gets better or dies (sorry to put it that way :x) you could move to be with him? there are schools in virginia, too.

ps- what state are you living in right now?

**Adri** · 02-19-2007, 01:45 AM

as a wife of a soldier i know what its like to have a long distance relationship. if u truely love eachother it can work, trust me =) it just takes a little extra effort from both ends

everyone's favo · 02-19-2007, 04:43 AM

As far as school is concerned, you can always check out a community college. Its cheaper and every area has one.

As far as things go, it'll all work out in the end. Just keep positive thoughts.

**SARS-expl0ted** · 02-19-2007, 07:21 AM

You should always take care of #1 first and #1 is you.
You need to go to school and you want to go to school. You shouldn't move if you don't want to and he should respect that. You guys should be able to work it out. You make it seem as if you both do well together.

Just talk to him about it. Tell him that you need and want that education && et cetera.

02-19-2007, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by SARS-expl0ted

You should always take care of #1 first and #1 is you.

yes. thats it. right there.

katrinav · 02-19-2007, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by everyone's favo

As far as school is concerned, you can always check out a community college. Its cheaper and every area has one.

yupp i totally recommend community college if there are any good ones in the area he moved to! :]

**SARS-expl0ted** · 02-19-2007, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by brad.

yes. thats it. right there.

Thanks for the backup man.
It truely is. You have to make sure that you can take care of yourself first and foremost before you worry about someone else.

02-19-2007, 01:22 PM

something like you not moving with him shouldnt break u guys up. he should understand if your grandma is sick and you want to stay. if you guys really do love each other and it was meant to be, it will work. for you two, it might take a little longer, but everything will soon come into place

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