i don't know what to do..

asleepxxorxDEAD · 07-18-2007, 10:24 PM

I know this sounds completely childish and stupid..

But I like two guys at one time...this has never happened to me before.
Let's explain the situation!!

Bachelor #1[AKA: Joey] - We've been friends for almost a year now, and we just started showing feelings for each other the past two months or so ago. I really like himmm..We have a lot in common, and he's my age.
Bachelor #2[AKA: Brandon] - I haven't known him all that long..maybe since May? We didn't really talk all that much, but this past Monday night we talked a lot. I got to know him some more, and I really like himmm. We have a lot in common, and he's a year and a half older than me.

OKAYYYYY..so, today I was talking to Joey online while I was texting Brandon. Joey decides to ask me out on a date, and at almost the same time, Brandon asks me to be his girlfriend. I don't know what to say to them!!
I like them both equally, I think. I know Joey likes me enough to ask me out sometime soon, all of my friends predict that we're gonna be going out by the end of the summer..but they don't know about Brandon..I don't want to turn down either of them, and I most definatelly am nott going to cheat on either of them.

They're both completely sweet and nice [and hot, I might add..], and it's pretty much the hardest decision ever.

Any advice?
..Pleeeeease!

Estefanina · 07-18-2007, 10:27 PM

Date them both. Tell them you're dating both of them. Make them compete.

Muahaha

**Nøz** · 07-18-2007, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Estefanina

Date them both. Tell them you're dating both of them. Make them compete.

Muahaha

Thats fucked up.

Estefanina · 07-18-2007, 10:29 PM

it has worked for me.

asleepxxorxDEAD · 07-18-2007, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Estefanina

Date them both. Tell them you're dating both of them. Make them compete.

Muahaha

hahha, i like that one.

geostigma · 07-18-2007, 10:33 PM

You should go with the guy you've known the longest. Then again, he is your friend and the relationship can ruin that so....idk. Go with the one your attracted to the most?

Static · 07-18-2007, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Estefanina

Date them both. Tell them you're dating both of them. Make them compete.

Muahaha

do this if you want a sure fire way to not end up with either of them...

that's really bad advice.

You have to like one more than the other, you can't like them both 'equally'. Decide which one means more to you, which one has better qualities, which one has more things your looking for at the moment, and go from there, it's really not that difficult. I'm sure the other one will understand. But, then again, you pretty much led one of them on, so good job...

lots of posts like these lately, makes me think all the good girls are less and less frequent. Can't there be a girl who doesn't play games and fuck with a dudes mind? I mean, really? Girls complain about how shitty guys treat them, but dude, I've seen atleast 2 different examples of chicks screwing over guys on this forum alone lately...makes you think.

Kreg D. Nooks · 07-19-2007, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Estefanina

Date them both. Tell them you're dating both of them. Make them compete.

Muahaha

You evil bitch.

Well, just go ahead... And date neither. Or at least the one that has been with you longer. I mean, Brandon asked you to be his girlfriend without knowing you too long. That smells like a player to me.

Estefanina · 07-19-2007, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Static

You have to like one more than the other, you can't like them both 'equally'. Decide which one means more to you, which one has better qualities, which one has more things your looking for at the moment, and go from there, it's really not that difficult. I'm sure the other one will understand. But, then again, you pretty much led one of them on, so good job...

it is completely possible to like two men equally. Whether or not you'd like to admit it.

so here are her options:

1.) keep them both in the dark and just pick one
2.) keep them both in the dark, give no answer and just see what happens
3.) let them both know the situation and pick one
4.) let them both know what's going on and see how they react.

A man who is going to crumble in the face of competition is not worth a good woman's time.

NachtEngel · 07-19-2007, 03:37 PM

How can it be bad advice to not go steady with either of them. I made a topic about this before. What the hell ever happened to casually dating people until you get to know them better. It seems like now people always think the need to instantly dedicate themselves to people. Tell them each that you do not want to make a commitment just yet. If they want to take you out on some casual dates then let them. Figure out who you want to be with. If one of them is not alright with that then they obviously do not want to be with you badly enough.

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Originally Posted by Estefanina

A man who is going to crumble in the face of competition is not worth a good woman's time.

Unless you are already committed to them. There should be no need for competition if you are already in a relationship.