here we go again...

MildlyAmused · 09-16-2007, 07:13 AM

oh man, my life is going to suck for the next few months.

warning: long story ahead (ok maybe not that long and its typed in parts, so try to keep track.)

alright where to begin.... well, i'm 19 turning 20 in april and i still live with my mom. And ive been dating my current girlfriend now for about 7 months, really sweet, cute innocent type, wants to wait till marriage for sex and all that hub-bub which im totally cool with. i love this girl. i know, im young, and i dont know what im talking about, thats not the issue, its just the story leading up to the issue.

my mom is moving again, at the end of my brothers last year of highschool, May, and im not talking city, im talking state wise, from arizona to texas. while its not the biggest distance in the world, id still rather not go, but in order for me to stay here in arizona, i basically have 7 months to turn my life around and actually get it on track. i personally have low self esteem and while all of my friends tell me that i can do it, i have a personal doubt lingering in the back of my mind. i mean, i guess im putting all of this on the fact that i feel like karen(my girlfriend, cause typing her name is so much easier) and i have a really deep connection.

so im basically throwing it up on the toast because the more opinions and thoughts on the subject the better. obviously i dont want to leave, and neither do my friends or karen, but id have to put a lot of work into getting everything i need squared away in mere months time.

i know i have to make the final choice, and fast, but what would you guys do if forced into this situation?? im just lost right now with no clear answer, freaking-a life sucks.

**SeaStone** · 09-16-2007, 11:20 AM

Do you have a job?

Ol' Patty · 09-16-2007, 11:23 AM

Do you think that it is worth the amount of trouble you are going to have to go through to accomplish this goal?

maggiesxrevenge · 09-16-2007, 11:31 AM

If I felt that I had a strong connection with my significant other and was in your situation I would maybe bring up moving in together that way you could start from there and build your way up so you get your life on track

09-16-2007, 11:51 AM

What do you mean by "turn your life around"? If all that means is get a job and a cheap apartment, I think it's totally do-able. Personally, I feel a very strong connection to my hometown and my friends, so if my parents decided to move out of state, I would stay here. I would start looking for a job and saving up my money, find a cheap place to live where I can split the rent with a bunch of friends. It would be a little scary, but the opportunity to become completely independent and self-sufficient would be kind of exciting. Seven months is a long time to get a job and save up money for living expenses and school (if that's even a factor here).

I guess in order to give better advice, we need to know more about your situation... what all do you need to get "squared away"? o.O

maggiesxrevenge · 09-16-2007, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by S_ever_ed

What do you mean by "turn your life around"? If all that means is get a job and a cheap apartment, I think it's totally do-able. Personally, I feel a very strong connection to my hometown and my friends, so if my parents decided to move out of state, I would stay here. I would start looking for a job and saving up my money, find a cheap place to live where I can split the rent with a bunch of friends. It would be a little scary, but the opportunity to become completely independent and self-sufficient would be kind of exciting. Seven months is a long time to get a job and save up money for living expenses and school (if that's even a factor here).

I guess in order to give better advice, we need to know more about your situation... what all do you need to get "squared away"? o.O

Agreed, I would love to help and need some more information to give some other advice.

everyone's favo · 09-16-2007, 12:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by S_ever_ed

What do you mean by "turn your life around"? If all that means is get a job and a cheap apartment, I think it's totally do-able. Personally, I feel a very strong connection to my hometown and my friends, so if my parents decided to move out of state, I would stay here. I would start looking for a job and saving up my money, find a cheap place to live where I can split the rent with a bunch of friends. It would be a little scary, but the opportunity to become completely independent and self-sufficient would be kind of exciting. Seven months is a long time to get a job and save up money for living expenses and school (if that's even a factor here).

I guess in order to give better advice, we need to know more about your situation... what all do you need to get "squared away"? o.O

So start spilling the beans.

maggiesxrevenge · 09-16-2007, 01:57 PM

I was thinking about this and actually you know since you and your significant other are really close you should sit down with her and ask her what she thinks you should do. You could benefit from having someone really close to you give you advice.

MildlyAmused · 09-16-2007, 07:30 PM

Hmm I guess I did leave it rather open ended, but let me clarify a few things and maybe this will help you better understand my viewpoint.

Arizona isn't my hometown, I grew up in illinois from my earliest childhood memories and I'd rather not have to start all over again, new job, new friends aquantices and what not.

As for everything I have to get squared away, I'm rather lazy, I only work part time and the earliest I ever start work is 10 am. What that means is I'll have to start acting more like an adult, with actual responsibilities which I'll have coming to me no matter where I live. I mean I don't even have a checking/debit/savings account, lol and I'm foolishly rather nervous about starting one up.

And yea moving in with a bunch of my friends would be the key thing to do, but a lot of my friends have joined up in the military, navy and marines more specifically, so I don't really have at this point in time, a good prospect of any roomates. And Karen had expressed way before my predicament that shes going to live with her parents for a good while, free room and board who wouldn't, and I don't want to force anything. I'm all about people making their own choices, and me wanting to stay here is my own choice.

So I guess thats what I mean by squaring things away and getting the 'ole life back on track. I don't know if this helps clarify things or brings up new questions, but it is more detail, and I even added punctuation too.

But your right, I probably should sit down and talk with her about it, it was a bombshell my mother dropped on me only a few nights ago.

Thanks for the replies so far.

maggiesxrevenge · 09-16-2007, 07:37 PM

I understand about the wholejob thing. Maybe you should try going out and meeting new people or go on craigslist and find a roomy. Maybe you should sit down with her and say if you want to move in with me the doors open right now and then tell her why (your situation)..