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Chad: Follow or Die
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07-18-2007, 08:36 PM
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Help! Idk What To Do Anymore....
Okay so pretty muchly my friend Brian..
is addicted to bars.. and other things too.. He lost custody of his daughter.. to his ex wife.. which I think is the main thing.. he went to detox and rehad.. and said he was doing fine.. then on the 4th.. he slipped.. and now he's rite back to where he started... I try and help all the time.. I mean we talk for hrs on the phone.. me just begging him... but he doesnt really take my advice.. i'm just sick of begging with him and going no where... I went to rehab and detox on and off for a year.. so I know where he's comming 4m.. but he still wont take my help.. I know you cant help someone unless they wanna be helped.. but he told me that he wanted to help me... is there some way that I can get his attention or make him wake up?? Thanks... to anyone that can help.. im just super lost.. Raven |
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07-18-2007, 08:46 PM
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I know its hard my cousin is in the same boat but he doesn't think he is doing anything wrong.. Like you said you cant help them unless they help themselves. He may not realize he is fucking up until he is alone and has nothing... I wish I could help but in a way I'm in the same boat. |
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07-18-2007, 08:51 PM
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well let's see, does he act in a manner that he would be unhappy with when he's drunk? because you may be able to use that, it sounds bad but sometimes you have to litterally show people how they are when they're drunk to get thier attention. other than that the best you can do is be there for them, you can try the tough love therapy technique and tell him if he doesn't try hard enough to get control of his issues that you won't be able to talk to him.
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07-18-2007, 08:51 PM
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07-18-2007, 09:00 PM
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But sometimes the best thing you can do is to turn your back on them. When the realize why you have done so maybe he will wake up... till then he wont think anything is wrong. |
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07-18-2007, 09:19 PM
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Honestly the only way that you can get him to listen is to completely ignore him. I mean when he's on something don't even speak to him. Let him know that you're there for him when he's not stoned.
I went through something similiar and the only way that I got through to my friend is doing just what I said above. Even that might not work if he doesn't want the help. I know you said that he wants to help but that doesn't mean anything until he actually shows it. |
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07-19-2007, 12:32 AM
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Wait it out, have some faith and patience.
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