confused on what to do! - Page 2

03-29-2008, 05:50 PM

Well; i dated this guy on and off for 2 years then we started dating this past june and then broke up again in november. he had already ordered my promise ring and we decided we really wanted to be together so the ring was suposed to be my early X-mas gift. But then over Thanksgiving my best friend came into town and well slept with him... so since he knew it was going to be over between me and him he also cheated on me with another girl. Then after the best friend left town me and him hung out and i almost lost my virginity to him.[[ he was always trying to pressure me for sex]]. But thank god i didnt do it an hour later he broke up with me. and started dating his new girlfriend Alyssa.

well; i tried doing the right thing and being nice to her and him.
but eventually things got out of hand and she hates me. well; when they
were on a break cuz she slept with someone ealse i hooked up with him. so when they got back together she told him that if we tried being friends again she was going to kick my ass and his.

well; we continued to be friends anyway. but then this past week we got in a really big fight. and when i should have bit my tounge i didnt and i think i screwed up every chance i had of ever being his friend again. and i didnt know it was going to hurt this bad i still care about him alot even though he loves someone ealse i dont know what to do but he yelled at me and used laungauge. ive never felt this shitty in my life. i cant get over it or him no matter how hard i try me and him broke up almost 5 months ago and i have yet to let go. i still catch myself thinking about him and sometimes i still cry over him.

part of me knew it was never going to work out between me and him because we are compeletly different and im really stubborn and like to speak my mind. i belive in honestly... plus my parents and family hated him...

so my question to you is what do i do now

icadragoon · 03-31-2008, 11:17 AM

It's no wonder she left with the first reply's she got. Through out my who life (and I'm sure it's the same with yours too) Ive had to make difficult decisions. Ones regarding relationships are tricky, cause your dealing with emotions, and no matter what you do you can't change another person's mind. My advice to you is to find a hobby, something you enjoy doing. When me and my ex of 3 years broke up (it's a really long story so I'm not going to go through it) I would write poetry. It helped me let out my feelings in ways that I could not with other people. Lets face it your friends only want to listen to a problem you have a few times and then they get frustrated (at least mine were that way). I would also read, a way for me to forget about how bad I thought my life was. I'm about to be a mom, which in way way scares me to death cause I know what type of a responsibility that is. At the same time I'm so happy that I think I might burst. Life is full of hardships and believe me you'll never regret your past as long as you learn from it. I would leave this guy alone, being friends with him is going to hurt you and it's not healthy. I hope this helps, If you ever need anything I'm usually on once a week so PM me.

**Arcángel** · 03-31-2008, 12:25 PM

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still catch myself thinking about him and sometimes i still cry over him.

That's a side-effect of giving that 110% to that someone that you care about. You'll be fine eventually though. That was exactly what happened during the last breakup that I went through. Ironically enough, we wound up getting right back together. Not to say that the same thing will happen to you two (or that it won't) but, love is a crazy, crazy thing which is ofter underestimated. Go figure, right?

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plus my parents and family hated him...

Your friends and your family are by far the most important people in your life, especially when it comes to things like this. A lover will come and go and until you find the right one (which you will, give it time) it is going to get harder but, friends and family are going to be there for you for life.

Just a word of advice though: when your friends and family show a really big dislike towards someone, it is been shown in my experience that whatever they are saying may be true or, that whatever they may be not so happy about, might have an impact on you or whatever relationship you hold with said lover, be it directly or indirectly. Try and hear them out.

**Ristaron** · 03-31-2008, 12:56 PM

Where the fuck do you live? Slutzville? Jesus motherfucking Christ are you so desperate that you can't stand being without Don Juan? Grow some dignity and get someone who fucking respects you and doesn't sleep around/dump you because you won't sleep with him. Jesus Christ, I can't believe you would even need someone to tell you this.

**Arcángel** · 03-31-2008, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Ristaron

Where the fuck do you live? Slutzville? Jesus motherfucking Christ are you so desperate that you can't stand being without Don Juan? Grow some dignity and get someone who fucking respects you and doesn't sleep around/dump you because you won't sleep with him. Jesus Christ, I can't believe you would even need someone to tell you this.

Now that's what i call being direct. I just don't have the energy to go buck wild on someone like that right now.

But hun, he's got a real good point. You need someone who's with you, ride or die, you feel me? Not someone who gonna disrespect you like the way he did. If homeboy really loved you, he would have been with you through thick and thin. Besides, from your age, you got your whole life ahead of you so, take it easy.

Keep it real, Rist lol

**Opunaya** · 03-31-2008, 01:08 PM

The guy sounded like a dick, and if you're really thirteen, well, I doubt you met your one true love that fast...but if this was your first boyfriend, I can understand how hurt you might be...I say just take it easy for a while, there's no reason to rush in to a relationship. You fucking kids these days don't know nothing about patience.

butterfingered · 03-31-2008, 01:25 PM

Are you all related? Or is one of you also fucking a goat? Because then you can go on Jerry Springer. If not, you'll probably have to settle for Maury.

**Arcángel** · 03-31-2008, 01:34 PM

^^ Me thinks she has been through enough, daughter of mine. Beisdes, what will a trip to those shows do for her besides add more drama and a stressful trip? Wait...TV! You're a genius!

Nawww.

everyone's favo · 04-01-2008, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by butterfingered

Are you all related? Or is one of you also fucking a goat? Because then you can go on Jerry Springer. If not, you'll probably have to settle for Maury.

Maury only puts kids into the military for rehabilations....Jenny Jones takes all the three-some family circles...

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Originally Posted by El_Subestimado

^^ Me thinks she has been through enough, daughter of mine. Beisdes, what will a trip to those shows do for her besides add more drama and a stressful trip? Wait...TV! You're a genius!

Nawww.

TV makes the world go 'round ^.^

04-03-2008, 02:25 PM

Well some of you assholes give really bad advise just to let you know! i can be a bitch but im not heartless. and why is everyone saying im 13?? wtf! add 4 years to that!

Static · 04-03-2008, 03:06 PM

A 17 year old girl should be able to figure this out. If a guy cheats on you, you should not be together with that person any longer. Yet you still 'love' him? A lot of what you said simply contradicts itself, seemingly like a 13 year old would do (that's why I assumed you were 13). I remember what things were like when I was 17, what you outlined sounds like a daytime soap opera.

I would seriously suggest just moving on and staying away from that guy, he seems like a TOTAL douche, cheats on you for not sleeping with him, then tries to MAKE you sleep with him, and you refuse so he breaks up with you? If you thought he was a winner, think again. There's 20 other guys that would take his place and I would be willing to bet all 20 of them would be a better match for you than he was.

I hope the communities comments don't detour you from visiting the site, people can be dicks, but most of the time it's appropriate, so don't hold it against anyone.