clingy friend

acutelyaware · 09-07-2007, 01:14 PM

so i got this asian stalker that won't LEAVE ME ALONE! he doesn't like me he just wants a friend, but he talks to me during class when i'm trying to concentrate, writes notes over my class notes, follows me around campus, even when i'm on the phone..he's just so needy and gets attached easily. and he wants to hang out-which is cool to an extent-but he doesnt have a car, so i drive everywhere and am using a lot of gas. idk what to do, we are friends; been friends for three years, but all of a sudden, he is really clingy. how do i tell him to back off without making him feel like i am being an ass and not wanting to be freinds withhom anymore.

Zaltais · 09-07-2007, 01:33 PM

This usually works for me, look him straight in the eyes and scream "WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU WANT NUGGET!?" Then after a moment of shock and confusion they stumble for words to figure out why such an outburst then you tell them they are following you around like an unloved orphan... and after a week or so they stop being mad stay your friend but not so clingy.... but then people are used to me screaming and being mean so they take that shit every day..

09-07-2007, 01:36 PM

Yeah first post not so good of an idea especially if she doesnt want to be mean.

Alright heres what I would do. When your hanging out with him one day tell him you have a lot on your mind and need sometime ALONE to think about it. That way you're not being a bitch and you have time for your other friends.

Mycal · 09-07-2007, 02:45 PM

yea cause then he will just think your gay, and are trying to figure out if you want him to be your first or not.. lol jk uhhh yea just take him to a public place.. explain it to him, and just let him know your not use to that much attention from 1 person at 1 time.

Chase_the_Bass · 09-07-2007, 02:48 PM

You can't tell him to back off without him getting hurt.

mogness · 09-07-2007, 02:56 PM

Stop taking showers/brushing your teeth/changing your clothes. Don't wear deodorant. Pick you nose and belch really loud in front of him. Tell him when you have a wedgie and say it's crusty. Tell him when you're going to take a crap. Fart in front of him.
These may seem a little extreme, but a combination of several of the above elements are pretty much guaranteed to scare away someone unless they're hopelessly obsessed. If they stick around... boy do you have problems.

Static · 09-07-2007, 03:49 PM

yeah Idk how your going to handle this one without the guy getting sad or pissed or whatever, which is his fault. I hate people like this, can't you tell when someone has had enough? I thought we all had that little secondary depth perception sense that tells when someone feels uncomfortable...I mean I'm sure your dropping hints left and right... he just isn't getting it. So now you have to be blunt. Just tell him it's been cool hanging with him a lot lately, but you really have to concentrate on yourself. Make sure he knows that it's not like your telling him your not going to be his friend anymore, so he doesn't over react or anything, and also, the public place idea is a good idea. That should work, all you really have to do is explain it to him...

acutelyaware · 09-10-2007, 08:42 AM

new news on the clingy asian. he now strokes my nails during class and i met the other girl he is following like crazy..she told me he talks ab me all the time to her, while he talks to me ab her all the time. very strange. i have turned down three dinner invites, a party, and almost of his phone calls and ignored his text messages. idk how i can tell him he needs to back off without him getting upset. the other girl he likes (stephanie) told me a few years ago he was doing the same thing then she got pregnant from some other guy and he went into a total depression and lost like thirty pounds and we are both concerned that would happen again. he does really weird things like spells our names out for fun on his walls and once he blacked out the letters of words in a magazine except for the ones that spelled stephanie...she caught him and he said it was just the first name he had thought of.

everyone's favo · 09-10-2007, 03:47 PM

Your gonna have to tell him eventually.

krnjason · 09-10-2007, 03:56 PM

ur gonna have to just ignore him, hell eventually get the subtle message... thats what i had to do to this one dude ( now a good best friend) when he showed up @ my door @ 7 in the morning on a saturday, asking if he could come in, (he rode his bike allll the way to my house for sum reason) and i said no.. eversince then he doesnt " stalk" me any more but were close friends