Got into speaking my mind on other things and forgot to answer the actual questions...
I think if she does not want to marry gay people then that's fine. I wouldn't want someone like her marrying me anyway. I don't think most people would want someone that's against their marriage to be a part of it at all.
Gay couple should get a whatever they want to call it depending on religion or lack of. Handfasting, wedding, or anything else. They should get the same benefits. It is not "against religion" to be wed to the same sex. Anyone that says that is only thinking about one religion.
Here is a little history...
I just started browsing through this site if you are curious about it not only being a Christian thing. There are a few good links with some information.
http://ablemedia.com/ctcweb/consorti...tweddings.html
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