Originally Posted by Ol' Patty

I find myself agreeing with Seastone. I don't think it would be right to alienate the grandparents just because the guy is like that. Especially if they genuinely seem interested in the child and you. I'm very thankful for the support both my maternal and paternal have given me through my life.



I think this is a good idea. If they are willing to be involved in the child's life it would show your willingness to include them by keeping them in the loop.

I grew up without a father as well. I think that it is extremely important to have a father figure in a child's life. Don't make yourself unhappy though. When my mother was raising us by herself I was a lot happier when I was younger even though now I know how hard it was for her. When she started getting boyfriends though, things got bad for a while. They either thought they were entitled to control how we lived our lives or they didn't treat my mother right. Or both.

Since the father defaulted his place in the child's life all decisions regarding it depend on you. Don't let anyone else control how you decide to raise your child. Not to say you shouldn't take advice or anything like that. Just don't ever do anything that you feel is not in it's best interest.

Congratulations, and good luck!