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Kalia · 04-19-2008, 10:22 AM

How about u sit his parents down and explain to them that although you want them to be a part of the babies life, you are considering giving the baby your names as it will avoid confusiong for it in the future. coz once the baby is old enough to notice it has the same surname as its grandparents, it'll be a bit confusing for him/her, also if u and your ex end up having a relationship, baby will wonder why it calls your ex daddy, but they dont have the same second name, whereas if you gave it your name you could say that you decided to give it mommys name instead.

my cousin was like they, his biological dad wasnt arround so his mom agve him her surname then when she got with my uncle and got married the kid kept his moms maiden name, it caused less confusion for it, size i'd imagin to a 4 year old changing its surname could be a bit confusing.

Also by sitting his parents own and discussing/explaining things it will make them feel more involved in the decision and hence less likely to resent you/get upset that it doesnt have their name

04-19-2008, 10:22 AM	#40 (permalink)
Kalia Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Cumbria England Posts: 285	How about u sit his parents down and explain to them that although you want them to be a part of the babies life, you are considering giving the baby your names as it will avoid confusiong for it in the future. coz once the baby is old enough to notice it has the same surname as its grandparents, it'll be a bit confusing for him/her, also if u and your ex end up having a relationship, baby will wonder why it calls your ex daddy, but they dont have the same second name, whereas if you gave it your name you could say that you decided to give it mommys name instead. my cousin was like they, his biological dad wasnt arround so his mom agve him her surname then when she got with my uncle and got married the kid kept his moms maiden name, it caused less confusion for it, size i'd imagin to a 4 year old changing its surname could be a bit confusing. Also by sitting his parents own and discussing/explaining things it will make them feel more involved in the decision and hence less likely to resent you/get upset that it doesnt have their name __________________ Owned by NauticalStars Last edited by Kalia; 04-19-2008 at 10:24 AM. Reason: had more to add.