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Originally Posted by everyone's favo
I hate to sound like a broken record, but you really are doing the right thing for yourself. Fuck that guy - he's a prick for leaving you and he isn't worth your time. You have plenty of emotional support everywhere else, so you should be fine.
The only major question I have is how will you support the child financially? Do you have a set plan or are you just taking it by the day?
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I still live with my mom, I'm going to get child support from him after I have the baby but I'm letting the government take care of him. That way I won't have to stress over it.
--------------- Added 15 Mar 2008 at 05:51 pm ---------------
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Originally Posted by SeaStone
Perhaps you could give the child both names.
The child is still his, despite him being a douche.
However, don't give the child just his name. You're raising the child so the child should have your name.
When you get married to someone who's undouche-like then you can give the child the new daddy's name.
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Ha ha, Ive heard that from other people and I'm considering it.
--------------- Added 15 Mar 2008 at 05:58 pm ---------------
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Originally Posted by SeaStone
The grandparents are still family.
I've lived my whole life with my father, the weeks or short months I spent consecutively with my mother were crap. However, when my father and I had a fallout, it was my mom's parents who took me in. They've paid for my medical bills, my college, my food, and my clothes. They're more family than my mother ever was.
Family is important. If she plays her cards right and doesn't shut them out, the child's grandparents could be like a second family for her and her baby.
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I do want his parents to be there and I half agree with the name thing. I know that if I put his name in the baby's name (Like if I was to give the baby both his name and mine) that his parents would not be so pissed off (cause I'm guessing they will be in some way). Right now I have a good relationship with them and they seem like they really want to know whats going on. They called me the day of my appointment to see how it was. That made me feel better.
--------------- Added 15 Mar 2008 at 06:07 pm ---------------
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Originally Posted by [ Jew Blaster ]
If the father cannot show the baby attention now, what makes you think he is going to be there for when the child is around? He's not.
Fuck the father and give the kid your last name and honestly, I wouldn't want to allow the guy to be a part of the child's life until the child said something about wanting to meet his/her father.
Seriously though, if the guy can't even take care of the mother of his child...he won't be able to take care of the both of you. Your best bet is to just depend on yourself and allow those who actually do care about you to help you out when you need it.
No matter how bad you might want to take this guy back when he comes begging for forgiveness from you, stand your ground and be strong. Make him work to prove that he is worth your time and the child's time because right now, he thinks that you two aren't worth his.
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Like sea stone said, well said. I totally agree and I don't want him back. Ive had a lot of time to think about it and if he loved me as much as I thought he did he would be acting differently about this. He actually deleted me off of his facebook because I started going out with my ex again (Thats what I think anyway). They way I see it is that I'm not going to stress if he's going to be there or not. If he wants to be there after it's born he can have visitation rights. If not then I'm not going to force him because it would hurt the baby.
--------------- Added 15 Mar 2008 at 06:11 pm ---------------
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Originally Posted by everyone's favo
I figured this much, but does she have a job as well? What about plans for college and other future endeavors?
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I'm in college right now, to be a psychologist. I'm going to take a semester off (maybe a year cause I'm breastfeeding) then I'm going back and my mom is going to watch him/her for me. I don't have a job while I'm in school but I work over the summer full time, I'm going to look for a secretary job for this summer though cause being on my feet all day being prego would suck big time.
--------------- Added 15 Mar 2008 at 06:18 pm ---------------
Ok so I think I answered all the questions (sorry I don't get on that much). I had my doctors appointment on Thursday and I heard the heart beat. It was awesome, what a load off my shoulders. I heard so many horror stories about the baby dieing but they person didn't know till after their doctors appointment 2 weeks later. The baby is healthy and everything was fine, I gained a pound which made me happy. I'm also getting a bigger belly, I'll post the pic's in the preggers pic section when I get the chance. I hope all is well with everyone else, I'll keep you posted if anything else comes up.